Thanksgiving Shenanigans: 31 And Counting!

I sustain myself with the love of family.
– Maya Angelou

Some relationships in families are complicated. We’d like to handpick our family members, but we cannot. But even if we could choose our peeps, we probably wouldn’t get it right anyway.  Think about it.  Over your lifetime, how many of your friendships have come and gone?   Some were short-lived and a few continued for decades.

Thanksgiving is less than one week away.  And let us remember that the holiday is a celebration of unity and gratitude.  If you have a warm place to sleep, food on the table, and are alive, stop and give thanks.  You are blessed. Churches, community centers, food banks, and other generous souls cook, deliver, and serve thousands of meals for less fortunate and homeless individuals. Those of us who have options and do not have to rely on others for the holiday feast need to recognize and not take it for granted.

That said, I ask you to consider your Thanksgiving plans. How so?  If you are prosperous enough to enjoy a meal, then think about a family member who you have not spoken to for some time. Maybe it’s time for you to reconnect. Perhaps it is time to bury the hatchet. You don’t have to become best friends with them.  Enjoy a meal together while giving thanks for being alive and for the opportunity to make amends. Or, at the least, pick up your phone and start a conversation with them.

Each year, I look forward to hosting our family holiday dinner, but 2017 is, generating, even more, excitement for me.

For the first time in my life, I am celebrating
AND hosting Thanksgiving dinner in a new home, outside of NJ….
In Georgia!

As soon as we settled on our home and prepared for our move, we told the  family, “We are still hosting Thanksgiving dinner, so start making travel plans!”

For the last 20+ years, we’ve hosted holiday dinners at our home and although 700+ miles away, I didn’t want that to change.

I wasn’t sure how many would make the trip, but hubby and I put it out there.

Whelp!  As of this writing, there will be 31 of us!!!

Six generations coming together! Oooomygooooodness!  How cool is that?

Our peeps are coming from New Jersey, Washington, DC, Tennessee, Michigan, and from other parts of Georgia.  How friggin awesome!!

Now, with that said. Chile… like most families, we have an assortment of temperaments and personalities!  We are a loving family and, like most, folks butt heads, have conflicts, kiss, and makeup.

However…sadly some folks hold on to grudges have issues and carry their baggage around like it has value and be cashed in for dollars!  So, on Thanksgiving, a few folks with strained relationships are dining under one roof.  The forgiveness conversation with my mom is an ongoing project; however, I remind her, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.”  She is a tough cookie, but that’s the rule in our home.

Sibling conflicts, parental conflicts and more. But you know what, I’m determined to make the occasion positive and memorable and encourage you to do the same.  All relatives deal with conflicts and fallouts, and typically the issue is over dumb sh**.

The pitfall is that some folks cannot get past their pride, their anger, their hurt, and the resentment they feel toward the other person.  Like an Olympic torch, they pass the burden on from one generation to the next. In my family, I continue to do what I can to stop this foolishness.  I’m not having generations of cousins, nieces, nephews disliking each other for nonsense.

Memories lapse, stories change,
but the animosity continues.

If we are to achieve optimum wellness,
we must open our hearts to forgiveness.

By not forgiving others, we are weighed down with trappings that grow heavier by the year.  The baggage inhibits our ability to experience complete joy and happiness.

Consider trying an exercise in writing a forgiveness letter.  Write the letter to the person who hurt and whom you have not forgiven.  Do not give it to them.  Address precisely what they did to you but also why you forgive them.  Set grammar and sentence structure aside, the point is to put your raw feelings on paper.  Pour our your emotions.  Cry if necessary.  Read what you wrote every day for a week.

Forgiving does not right a wrong.  To forgive someone allows you to move on to a place where the anger eventually vanishes. It grants the opportunity for growth and for more positive energy to flow through you.  If you cannot surpass the tension, seek counseling to help you work through it.

Mentally I am prepping harder than usual for Thanksgiving because this is my first Vegan Thanksgiving!  We have always had vegan family members for holiday dinners, but I was eating meat then.

This is the fifth week that I’ve sustained life without chicken, turkey, dairy, or seafood.  I’m singing and dancing around the house to Cool & The Gang’s, Celebration!

Lately, I’ve had a bit of a sweet tooth.  I’m not sure why that is, but I fixed the craving with some bruised apples in a bag.

I washed and peeled six apples.  Add them to a pot with a little water (about a half-cup) and added cinnamon and nutmeg.  NO SUGAR!  I cooked them on low until they softened.  The result is intoxicating!!  If I hadn’t prepared them myself, I would swear that the cook added sugar.  Restraint was in full effect.  I wanted to eat the whole pot in one sitting.

One morning, I had to eat on-the-road, so I went to Starbucks for Oats. They came with nuts and dried fruit. For protein, I added nuts but passed on the dry fruit with 22 grams of sugar.

After eating the darn oats, I realized they probably had dairy in them.  Ugh!! The thought didn’t occur to me to ask for coconut or almond milk and until the cup was empty.  Lol!
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One of my favorite meals of the week is this bowl of red quinoa, black-eyed peas, sautéed mushrooms, and onions.

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Each week my strategy is to cook one to two cups of quinoa, a crock pot of legumes or beans, bunches of kale, and to try something new. This week, I was just too busy preparing for Thanksgiving to do that, but still did just fine.   Later in the week, I can always add additional roasted veggies, which will add a variation to my meals.

I’m working on ideas for next week… hoping to make a few savory vegan dishes so I won’t be tempted by the baked mac & cheese and deep fried turkey.

Since taking on the Vegan challenged, I’ve noticed a few changes.

  1. I feel lighter.  Not like I have lost a bunch of weight but somehow brighter.  Putting into words is hard.
  2. Late afternoon, I no longer feel sluggish and crave power naps. It’s odd because I am not getting any more or less sleep but I have more energy.
  3. I haven’t felt the need for my afternoon cup of java.
  4. Although I’ve been working out intensely pretty much five days a week, in the past week I lost 5 pounds!
  5. I’m feeling a bit more energized.  This is funny because I’m already high energy….when I’m supposed to be resting between sets at the gym, I’m pacing around looking for some cardio sh** to do!  Hubby thinks I’m nuts and can’t figure it out.

This post is longer than planned but, the bottom line is that any change takes times. 

Diet, mindset, attitude— any change in behavior involve a process.  Neither occurs overnight, but YOU must want to make the transition.  You can’t do it for anyone but yourself.  I suggest merely starting today.  Then try again tomorrow and the next day, and the day after that…   Eventually, you will achieve what you seek.

“Everything is hard before it is easy.”

-Goethe J.W

In preparing for the holiday, the upcoming week is going to be hectic… traveling, cooking, making plans for house guests, squeezing in gym time, writing, and more.  But with that said, my goal is not to stress about any of my plans and worry about everything being perfect but to remain mindful, present, and to enjoy the process and the time with my family.  I hope you do the same! I can’t wait to share pics!!

We spend precious hours fearing the inevitable.
It would be wise to use that time adoring our families,
cherishing our friendships, and living our lives.

– Maya Angelou

 

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Pay attention to the things you are naturally drawn to.
They are often drawn to your path, passion, and purpose in life.  Have the courage to follow them.
-Ruben Chavez

I am at conflict.  Like really feeling some kinda way.

Only two weeks into my journey, I promised myself that I would not to turn into a wacky extremest.  Hmm…  I am the only person in my household on this vegan trip.

No one is interested in a plant-based diet, so I have to cook two different meals, which isn’t new for me.  Right before I started training for my first figure competition, I began to eat clean (avoiding processed foods), so I cooked “clean” meals for me and regular meals for my family.

If you are not vegan, please; keep reading!  I am not trying to gross you out or offend you. I am sharing my private thoughts…that’s all.  You might have initiated some kind of change in your life and are facing a struggle with its execution.

To shift our behavior to more positive behavior requires some level of self-awareness and self-regulation (factors of emotional intelligence). Efficiently being aware of and managing our emotions can guide our thinking and our actions through the muddle and eventually achieve our goals. That’s what this post is about… me sharing my private thoughts with you and while sorting through conflicting emotions.  If this post helps one person, then it is worth my time and effort.

This blog is devoted to sharing insight on how to improve Health & Wellness (HW).  The food and beverage we consume impacts our physical, mental and overall well-being.

Chicken drumsticks

Ugh!

Anyways, while seasoning a pan of drumsticks for my peeps, all I could see where thousands of ill-health chickens squashed together in coop.

Then there’s the realization of the sheer volume of antibiotics and other chemicals that were injected… the thoughts produced feelings of guilt.  Yes. Guilt!

Why guilt?  Because I do the grocery shopping and cooking for my family.  If I prepare plant-based meals, they will be annoyed with me.

My 15-year-old son ain’t trying to eat plant-based…period.  Hubby and mom.  They enjoy meat too.

Knowing more about the effects of meat on the body, makes me feel bad.  I feel like I’m feeding them chemicals and contributing to future health problems.  I have to figure how out how to manage my unsettling emotions without passing judgment for their dietary choices. After all, other vegan family members have never judged me for sucking chicken off a bone or for eating a half dozen shrimp saturated in butter.  I’m merely trying to keep things in perspective.

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Deprogramming Of The Brain

Except for two (yes I counted) small pieces of calamari, I successfully navigated seven days of meatless meals.  On Saturday we (the family) ate at Longhorn Steakhouse.

My plan of attack was to order the strawberry vinaigrette salad (dressing on the side). Pick out the chicken and give the meat to hubby.   I knew our son would order our favorite Longhorn appetizer.  Calamari.  We usually share it; however, I already decided to pass.

My cousin joined us. She’s picky about how her calamari is cooked, so I assured her that Longhorn’s was one of the best. A slight crunch and the perfect combination of sweet and spicy.  Lord!  When it was delivered, I declined.

But after watching the two of them delightfully devour the calamari, for about 10 minutes, resistance was no longer an option.  I needed one last taste for the road.  The last time I ate calamari at this restaurant, I didn’t know it would be my last, so I had to kind of seal the deal.  I’m dead serious.

The lingo of living meatless is confusion. Vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian, and there are others.  My ultimate intention is to eliminate meat, seafood, and dairy.

I have to figure out what to replace the organic dairy hazelnut creamer with, in my coffee.  I don’t use sugar, but I like the flavor of hazelnut. I can live without cheese and can step away from eggs for now.

This being my second attempt to go meatless, my attitude and frame of mind are different. My understanding of the obstacles before me is more realistic. I am in a constant mode of searching for dietary resources and helpful tips.

Matthew 7:7-8: Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.

Today I set aside time to catch up on a few of my favorite podcasts.  I was amazed when I realized the topics were about plant-based diets.  I did not search for the subject.  God knew my heart and my intentions so he made sure that I received the instruction and support that would guide me through the week. The two podcasts were:  Eating Like A Grown-up: Insights on a plant-based lifestyle with Renee Cowan and Plant-Based Eating, Faith and making the transition with Renee Cowan

I’m telling you, I needed to hear these messages today.  As I cooked dinner for my family, I listened to the podcasts and had several ah-ha moments.

Although the fact is logical, the most significant ah-ha moment for me was realizing that while animals such as cows are a source of protein, the cow’s source (most often) of protein plants.   The same goes for other livestock.  Hello!!!  If they can grow healthy and robust on plants, why can’t I?

If you are interested in learning how to transition to a meatless diet, listen to the podcasts.  Both parts are informative.

♥  ♥  ♥ . . .

Onto my meals…

I replaced my animal-based protein powder drink by adding three tablespoons of Hemp Seed Hearts  (10 grams of protein) to my steel oats (7 grams of protein) prepared with Califia Coconut Almond Milk (1 gram of protein).   Total protein for breakfast 18 grams!  For someone who thought she had to eat eggs or drink whey protein, I guess I did fantastically!  I’m so excited!

 

Another takeaway from Renee Cowan was to just replace meat with a vegetable, and that’s what I did today.  Added to my plate of Tempeh and green beans dish is a blend of kale and turnip greens with onions.

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I am learning that I must deprogram my brain and continue to search daily for inspiration and resources.

I’ve got black beans in the crockpot, and I am preparing for week two.  I am curious and eager to discover how my new diet and rigorous workout will affect my body.  Over time, I will know.  For now, I am patient.

Thanks for stopping by!

Smooches!


Day 5 Of My Vegan Challenge

It is day five of my personal vegan challenge.   I fear that I will run out of plant-based meals or become bored with my options.  To prevent my fear from coming to fruition, I am fiercely planning meatless meals.

In addition to reading online articles about vegan diets, I unpacked Russell Simons, The Happy Vegan.   Two years ago I bought the book, but I never finished reading it.  Why I don’t know.

This go around, I am more focused, and I am enjoying the read.

A friend introduced me to tempeh.

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Tempeh is funny looking.  Not very appealing to the eye. It is a fermented soy-based vegetarian food that is common in Asia.  Tempeh is reported to elevate hormones levels and trigger breast cell production, so “if you have a history of estrogen-receptor positive breast cancer,” you should talk to your doctor.

Anyways, while I do limit my soy intake, I decided to try it. Of course, I had to put my spin on it.  So without a recipe and using only the package instructions, I made a new and tasty dish.

First I melted Kerrygold butter.   Yes.  I know it’s dairy.  One thing at a time.  Meat first, then dairy.  At least it’s butter from plant fed cows.

Then I added minced garlic and the entire packet of tempeh (cubed).  Instructions said to add soy sauce and cook until golden but to avoid the sodium, I skipped that step. Instead, I added vegetable broth.  Then I tossed in a little red, yellow and orange peppers, 1/2 jalapeno, and then a serving (3 teaspoons) of hemp seeds.

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I let it simmer until the tempeh softened and I could split the cubes.  It looked dull, naked, and lacked color, so I added green beans.

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The Pot!

 

 

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My plate!  It was magnificent!

For dinner on Tuesday, I added Lima beans to my spaghetti squash…  Another good one!

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But on Tuesday, I also cooked curry and turmeric quinoa.

The ingredients:

1 cup of quinoa
1 Tbs of olive oil
1 medium to large size garlic clove
1 jalapeno pepper
1 regular size can of organic black beans (rinsed)
1 can garbanzo beans (thoroughly rinsed)
1 can of regular or fire roasted diced tomatoes or regular unsalted stewed tomatoes
1 – 1/2 cups of organic low sodium vegetable broth
3-4 Tbs of organic curry (estimate… add until the quinoa turns yellow)
2-3 Tbs of organic turmeric (estimate)

Add olive oil, minced garlic, and jalapeno to saucepan. Soften then combine remaining ingredients. Cook on high for about 5 minutes, then simmer on low for about 15-20 minutes.  If it dries out before the quinoa is soft, add a little more vegetable broth.

Enjoy!!  I found the original Mexican Quinoa on Pinterest at damdelicious.net.
If the curry is a little too much for you, try the Mexican dish.

I am doing okay this week and will continue to search for new recipes.

If you read my post, Why My Son Wants To Help His Grandmother, or This Happened Today then you know my son is trying to help my mom quit smoking.

A quick update.  Tailor continues to convince my mom to walk to the mailbox after dinner, but she is still smoking.  She has talked about smoking fewer cigarettes so only time will tell.  I give him an A for effort.

As I previously wrote, I failed at my first attempt at a vegan diet, but I haven’t given up.  Perhaps two years ago wasn’t the right time for me eliminate all meat from my diet. What I am sure about is that, although I failed once, it doesn’t mean I can’t take another shot at it.  And no.  I am not trying to convince anyone to become vegan, I am merely sharing my journey.  In a future post, I will write more about my decision to give up meat.

Modify. Adapt. Assess. Revaluate. But don’t give up on what’s important to you.