Celebrating 81 Years

Happy Birthday Mom!!

Today is mom’s 81st birthday.  Talk about blessings!  Well, first I am blessed to live to see my mom celebrate the milestone.  Second, she’s blessed, because many folks do not live to see 81. My children have had precious years with their grandmother. The blessings are endless!

“Lena,”  “Florence,” “Grandma Dynamite,” “Grand mom,” whatever you choose to call her is very much alive and kickin!


 Happy that mom is celebrating her 81st Birthday today!   #100HappyDaysChallenge #100HappyDays4Lexa  Day#18

Known quite well for her outspoken and sharp tongue.  Rarely asked for her opinion, yet she will still (to this day) give it all to you.  The good, bad, and the downright ugly!  She will tell you,

 “My mom always told me to tell the truth, so that’s what I do!

Known by everyone as mama and pop, my grandparents raised mom and 12 siblings in a small shack in the country, a good 20 miles or so from civilization.

They lived without electricity, gas, or running water.  Getting up in the middle of the night to use the “bathroom” meant going outside to the outhouse.  And yet today, I have the nerve to turn my nose up to a port-potty.  Back in the day, mom would have been too darn happy to use that amenity.

Laundry meant using a washboard.


 Just imagine laundry for 15 family members using wash boards!

Every school day, she (and her siblings) walked miles on a long dirt road, narrowed by over-sized oak and pine trees, to catch the school bus.  Rain, shine, hot, and frigid cold—didn’t matter they still walked wearing hand-stitched clothing and run down shoes, eating mama’s (my grandmother’s) homemade biscuits.

Mom survived some real hard times.  I was curious about 1933, the year she was born, so I hit the internet!

* The average cost of a new home was $5,750!

* My favorite board game, Monopoly was invented

* The chocolate chip cookie was invented

* 1933 was the worst year of the depression

* The Drive-in movie theater was invented

* On September 10th, the first Negro League All-Start game occurred.

It is no secret that mom and I rarely see eye to eye (I’m laughing), but that has no impact on the love or affection that I have for her.  Every other day we disagree about something (I’m dead serious), but I still show her the respect she deserves.

While I don’t agree with some of her methods of raising me, I am certain that my daughter can say the same about me.  It is what it is.  I think it is Oprah who says, when you know better, you do better.

There are no do-overs in life, I affirm that each generation should learn from the previous generation and raise the bar with regards to everything—education, parenting, careers, etc…

I am grateful and happy that she is still going strong!  Mom is still independent.  Today, if you even look at her the wrong way or mess with her kids (there are two of us) or her favorite sisters, she will give you the cussin out of a lifetime.  Lol!!  Years ago she’d slap you in a heartbeat.  Haaaahaaa!   Though it wasn’t funny then.

Anyways, I give props to mom because she empowered me and taught me to be the strong, to be resilient, to be independent, fight for I want (figuratively & literally), and to be the bad ass and confident daughter that I am today.  Hehe!  Funny but true.  Thanks mom!!

Never wanting anyone to make a fuss over her on birthday, I’m not sure how she’d feel about this post, but I plan on sharing it with her (later) in a very special way.

Happy Birthday Mother!!!

Clearly it’s been a minute since I’ve posted.   Any he-how… this is a quick one.  Guilt from infrequent posts have led me to blog this morning.


Obviously this is not the most inspiring or effective writer’s space, but it’s where I’m currently blogging –folding clothes–supervising my son who is supposed to be sorting through his toys (like I’m supposed to be doing laundry)—washing clothes—poppin my fingers and shaking my booty to Beyonce’s “Crazy In Love”.   Hubby surprised me with tickets to see Beyonce’s, Mrs. Carter’s show last night!  I had a blast; Mrs. Carter did her thang!





Why haven’t I posted?   Simply because the past month, I’ve either procrastinated, became distracted by CrossFit, floating in my pool, attending to sleep needs, and enjoying the blazin 90+ degree temps at the Jersey Shore.   All equates to falling off the wagon of discipline.

The truth is that as a working mother of a young child and wife of 25-years, at the end of the grinding school year I need a break.  I need and use the first month of my summer vacation to unwind and re-charge.  The rule is:

     Do whatever I feel like doing.

Eleven months out of the year, I  run a tight ship playing a plethora of roles, so it won’t kill my family when I slack on everything for a month…or so.

As a little girl, mom taught me how to fold linen... very nicely.

As a little girl, mom taught me how to fold linen… very nicely.

Sorting laundry

Sorting laundry

Just a few of many toys.... YIkes!!
Just a few of many toys…. Yikes!

They're cute but must go!

The bugs on the wall are cute but must go!

My son’s bedroom is overdue for a remodel.   Check out the bug theme!! LOL!!  At soon-to-be 11, I think…    Ah… I know that he’s outgrown the theme.  I don’t even want his friends going to his room for fear of them laughing at his “kiddy” themed room.

This morning is the start of sorting through old and broken toys.  Some we’ll give away, others will be trashed.

I really must go now but wish you a FABULOUS Friday and thanks so much for visiting!

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A new laundry trend

I can’t speak for all women, but for many of us, there’s something special about putting on a pair of high heels.  Strapping on your favorite pair of heels has a way of making you feel particularly good.  No, I know what it is!  It’s a cool feeling of sexiness.  That’s it.  Heels instantaneously put a little more pep in my step and more of a feminine swag to my walk.   Lol! 

Today I found myself doing my laundry in heels.  Say what?  Yep!

Due to my passion for running, I am suffering from a foot condition (plantar fasciitis).  To speed up recovery, my doctor told me to stop walking bare feet on the hard wood floors, stop wearing , flip-flops –my summer favorite, and to wear a shoe or sneaker at home  that provides more support.

Last month, I started wearing an alternative shoe/sandal, but they don’t work; I’m still experiencing foot discomfort.  I switched to sneakers, which helps; however, my running sneakers are grungy.  In our home, shoes that are worn outside are not worn in the house.  I can compromise and wear my sneakers on the main floor of the house, but I refuse to wear those nasty shoes upstairs in the bedrooms and the master bath. 

So yesterday I rummaged through my closet for suitable footwear that has not yet been work outside.  Ta-da!  I found the perfect pair!   

They’re sandals so my foot can breathe.  They have a little heel and they are extremely comfortable.

I slid on my sandals this morning and didn’t think much of it.  Mom commented twice, “Hmm… you look nice!”   “Hmm… You look really nice today!”  Laughing to myself I thought, “What’s the big deal?!”  Even hubby was taking second and third glances with eyebrows up.

When I saw a reflection of myself from the basement glass door carrying a laundry basket full of sheets and towels, I started cracking up.   Not bad old girl!  I thought, “When was the last time I laughed this hard or got this much attention from the family while doing laundry.”

Doing laundry is such a long and drawn out chore, but strutting through the house in my comfy heels is making the chore more enjoyable.  I’ve decided to start a new trend at home—laundering in heels!   At the top of my to-do list:  Buy comfy sexy heels to do next week’s laundry.  Lol!