Without Judgment Clarity Exists

There is eternal power and influence in motherhood.

-Julie B. Beck

Seeing the first image of our baby inside of our womb, the excitement of feeling the first kick inside our swollen bellies, the forever waited sound of the first breathe and cry at birth—all produces a plethora of emotions and fairytale like dreams.

Instant tears of joy and feelings of entitlement for our baby boy or baby girl—They will have our best and they will be the best at whatever they set out to do in life. We will always be there for them.

What is missing from the arrival of our bundle of joy is, a book of wisdom. Although you can find just about any book on any topic of how to do anything online and in stores, no single approach to parenting is a guarantee.

Every child and every mother is unique. We become mothers with an abundance of love and only our bag of history, experiences, and knowledge—the good and the bad.

Just as our moms raised us the best they could, we follow pursuit and plan to do the same, but better (or so we think).

It has taken me many years to step away from the idealism of how my mom should have raised me versus how I was raised.

Burying the judging gavel, allows me to see with clarity.

I see myself in her, which took over 25 years to happen.

I am an extension of my mother and I represent book two of Lena.

That little seed of kindness inside of her has blossomed within me and for that I am grateful.

That mighty strength of hers, which moves the heavens and the earth, has not fully matured within in me; I yearn for it, but patiently wait, as the growth is ongoing.

We are fiery women. Like an out of control woods fire, Mom’s flame skips around readily. I have the flame too, but work hard to suppress it. Occasionally the beast escapes. When the fire kindles, I am Lena’s lookalike.

Mother’s love for fashion and style (when she was younger) was evident in her old pics– Hmm… I got that from her too!  Lol!

She loves to win…so do I. 🙂

While I may not like or agree with everything about the process of how I have become the woman I am today,

I very much like who I am and give homage, praise and thanks to my mother for creating me.

To all the moms, mother’s-to-be, fill in moms, Nanas, mom-moms and everything else, Happy Mother’s Day and thank you for all that you do!!! 🙂

Motherhood quotes that make me smile: 🙂 

“A mother is a mother from the moment her baby is first placed in her arms until eternity. It didn’t matter if her child were three, thirteen, or thirty.”
Sarah Strohmeyer, Kindred Spirits

“…moms, even good ones, sometimes lose it a little so as not to lose it all.”
Susan Squire

“A mother who would stop at nothing for her child is dangerous woman when crossed.”
Solange nicole

“I cannot admit this out loud. In the first place, we are expected to be supermoms these days, instead of admitting that we have flaws. It is tempting to believe that all mothers wake up feeling fresh every morning, never raise their voices, only cook with organic food, and are equally at ease with the CEO and the PTA.”
Jodi Picoult, House Rules

“Half the time your kids end up hating you for at least 5 of their teenage years[.] And don’t ever expect anything so mundane as a thank you”
Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm 

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Weekend Wisdom

Training for a fitness competition is no joke!

At 4:14 a.m. yesterday, I woke up feeling like this! 



Lazily I walked downstairs to get my much needed caffeine fix and to start my day. Friday was a long day.  With all the ordinary engagements, the day came and went. 

This morning, without even a glimpse of the sun, I was out of the bed at 5 a.m.  

Fourty-five minutes later, my eyes were stinking from the sweat dripping in my eyes.  





Saturday, March 21st, is showtime!

I already know that the upcoming and final week will be filled with nothing but tests.

A test of my self discipline.

A test of my heart.

A test of my fortitude.

A test of my confidence.

And more!   

But I will not Waiver.  How do I stay committed?   

I keep my eyes focused on the goal and infuse myself with positive wisdom.  Enjoy!













Happy Saturday and make it a great day!  The choice is yours!  🙂  




This is why I don’t sweat the small stuff

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

Albert Einstein

I look down.  I see one of my favorite medium-sized sterling silver hoop earrings rolling across my colleague’s office floor.

When I reach down to pick up the earring, I notice the latch is missing from the hoop.  Rats!!  My eyes carefully scan the tweed color textured carpet hoping to find the missing latch.  No such luck. The hoops are my favorite earrings. I can wear them with nearly any outfit and they match.

My colleague walks over and gives the carpet a second look over, but still no latch.

Hmm…

Oh well, I guess it is just meant for me to buy another pair of sterling silver earringsIt’s no big deal! Later I will probably find the latch stuck in my clothing or undergarments.

I laugh.  I am not wealthy or anything but I see no purpose in getting upset.  I cannot change the situation, so I’m over it.  I thank her for looking for the piece, exit her office, and forget all about the missing latch for the rest of the day.

The hoop fell out around 12:30 p.m. this afternoon.

This is funny!  A few minutes ago– 11:02 p.m. tonight (same day)  I just finished brushing my teeth. I noticed something odd-looking near my second pierced ear that holds a diamond stud.

When I look closer…

the latch is still in my ear!

The hoop separated from the latch and fell to the floor, but the latch stayed in the hole!!! Since my hair has grown and covers my ears, I could not see that the latch was still in my ear.

Ha!  Ha!  See, this is exactly why I don’t sweat the small stuff!  I still have the hoop and the earring is repairable.

I was once emotionally and mentally wired to overreact to situations to which I had no control over.  Thankfully age, wisdom, experience, and the well-known serenity prayer has taught me better.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Reinhold Niebuhr