Without Judgment Clarity Exists

There is eternal power and influence in motherhood.

-Julie B. Beck

Seeing the first image of our baby inside of our womb, the excitement of feeling the first kick inside our swollen bellies, the forever waited sound of the first breathe and cry at birth—all produces a plethora of emotions and fairytale like dreams.

Instant tears of joy and feelings of entitlement for our baby boy or baby girl—They will have our best and they will be the best at whatever they set out to do in life. We will always be there for them.

What is missing from the arrival of our bundle of joy is, a book of wisdom. Although you can find just about any book on any topic of how to do anything online and in stores, no single approach to parenting is a guarantee.

Every child and every mother is unique. We become mothers with an abundance of love and only our bag of history, experiences, and knowledge—the good and the bad.

Just as our moms raised us the best they could, we follow pursuit and plan to do the same, but better (or so we think).

It has taken me many years to step away from the idealism of how my mom should have raised me versus how I was raised.

Burying the judging gavel, allows me to see with clarity.

I see myself in her, which took over 25 years to happen.

I am an extension of my mother and I represent book two of Lena.

That little seed of kindness inside of her has blossomed within me and for that I am grateful.

That mighty strength of hers, which moves the heavens and the earth, has not fully matured within in me; I yearn for it, but patiently wait, as the growth is ongoing.

We are fiery women. Like an out of control woods fire, Mom’s flame skips around readily. I have the flame too, but work hard to suppress it. Occasionally the beast escapes. When the fire kindles, I am Lena’s lookalike.

Mother’s love for fashion and style (when she was younger) was evident in her old pics– Hmm… I got that from her too!  Lol!

She loves to win…so do I. 🙂

While I may not like or agree with everything about the process of how I have become the woman I am today,

I very much like who I am and give homage, praise and thanks to my mother for creating me.

To all the moms, mother’s-to-be, fill in moms, Nanas, mom-moms and everything else, Happy Mother’s Day and thank you for all that you do!!! 🙂

Motherhood quotes that make me smile: 🙂 

“A mother is a mother from the moment her baby is first placed in her arms until eternity. It didn’t matter if her child were three, thirteen, or thirty.”
Sarah Strohmeyer, Kindred Spirits

“…moms, even good ones, sometimes lose it a little so as not to lose it all.”
Susan Squire

“A mother who would stop at nothing for her child is dangerous woman when crossed.”
Solange nicole

“I cannot admit this out loud. In the first place, we are expected to be supermoms these days, instead of admitting that we have flaws. It is tempting to believe that all mothers wake up feeling fresh every morning, never raise their voices, only cook with organic food, and are equally at ease with the CEO and the PTA.”
Jodi Picoult, House Rules

“Half the time your kids end up hating you for at least 5 of their teenage years[.] And don’t ever expect anything so mundane as a thank you”
Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm 


Begin Each Day Like This

 

Photo courtesy of my friend JH.  Thank you! 


What we do is not as important as how we do it. The attitude, the energy, and the flavor that we infuse our actions will determine the scope and magnitude of the results.  

We are enroute to B’Dazzle’s Saturday morning tutoring.  While it is early and I would appreciate sleeping in, I am immersed in gratitude for the gift and blessing of life. I woke up this morning, not everyone did. 

When you get up in the morning, before getting out of bed, take a deep breath and slowly exhale.  

Give sincere thanks for another day. 

Smile. 

Regardless of what lies ahead of you, commit to giving it your all.  Find the sunshine in as many moments as possible. 

Smile.

Don’t be discouraged by happenings that you cannot control. 

Smile. 

Go about your day with a positive attitude and keep forgiveness in your heart. 

Smile. 

Practice random acts of kindness. 

Smile. 

Most of all, “Be the kind of person that you want to meet.”

Make it a fabulous day!  Smooches!  :). 


Weekend Wisdom

Training for a fitness competition is no joke!

At 4:14 a.m. yesterday, I woke up feeling like this! 



Lazily I walked downstairs to get my much needed caffeine fix and to start my day. Friday was a long day.  With all the ordinary engagements, the day came and went. 

This morning, without even a glimpse of the sun, I was out of the bed at 5 a.m.  

Fourty-five minutes later, my eyes were stinking from the sweat dripping in my eyes.  





Saturday, March 21st, is showtime!

I already know that the upcoming and final week will be filled with nothing but tests.

A test of my self discipline.

A test of my heart.

A test of my fortitude.

A test of my confidence.

And more!   

But I will not Waiver.  How do I stay committed?   

I keep my eyes focused on the goal and infuse myself with positive wisdom.  Enjoy!













Happy Saturday and make it a great day!  The choice is yours!  🙂  




Watch Yourself On Complaining

“There were people who went to sleep last night,
poor and rich and white and black,
but they will never wake again.

And those dead folks would give anything at all
for just five minutes of this weather
or ten minutes of plowing.

So you watch yourself about complaining.

What you’re supposed to do
when you don’t like a thing is change it.
If you can’t change it,
change the way you think about it.”
― Maya Angelou

I was surprised to received a group email. I was even more caught off guard by the sender. The sender pretty much reflected on his past practices and concluded that changes were in order. The reason for and the specifics of the email are not important.

What is important is the theme of the message:

CHANGE: to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone.

Without a desire and effort, change is impossible.  We can look outward and point to everything around us that we think needs changing but it is not until we look at our own reflection that a transformation can occur.

Sustaining a healthy lifestyle is an ongoing journey.

My definition of a “Healthy Lifestyle” is

maintaining a balance of all that is good (spirituality, giving to those less fortunate); all that is positive (energy); all that makes me smile (fitness, family, finance & fun); and endless adventures and opportunities to learn, grow, and develop as a person. 🙂

Lol!  I know… that’s a mouthful, but “healthy living” encompasses many factors (for me).

I stumbled on this particular work of Maya Angelo and had to share it with you! If you find yourself complaining about something, remember Maya Angelo’s words, “What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing, is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”

Oh do; please reflect on her wisodm and have a marvelous day!  🙂


What Seems Impossible Is Anything But!

Friday’s WOD

“Wittman”
7 rounds
15 kb swing 53/35
15 power clean 95/65
15 box jump 24/20

Rest 5 min

SWOD/buyout
Work up to 3rm for front squat then take 50% of that number and do an unbroken amrap (as many reps as Possible)

The first thing I do when I walk in the door is scan the white board for the days WOD.

Hmm… Whittman. I haven’t done him before. Initial thought, not too bad.  Of course I didn’t see the

7 rounds

15 minutes into the WOD, a puddle of water forms under my bar bell. I realize this is going to be more challenging than I thought. But I felt strong, rested & up for the challenge.

My primary focus was to complete the 105 box jumps without injuring my shins. I did that! Sweet!

My power cleans improved with each round.  Encouragement & critique from the instructor made a world of difference. If you are not careful and get caught up in beating others or just completing the WOD, you risk sacrificing form. Having an instructor who pays attention to members helps to break bad habits, improve form, and prevent injuries. It makes for a better overall experience.

I completed the rounds and felt great. Time: 24:27 (if I remember correctly).  What I didn’t see coming was AMRAP front squats as the buyout. Yikes!

Before starting the front squats, we were told that 34 was the most reps done for the day. I thought that was amazing. After hearing who the beast was that did the 34 squats, I counted myself out.

By squat number 20, I was the only one left doing reps. The instructor snapped at other members to cheer me on, and so they did.

I got to 34 and some mumbled and pleaded,

“one more!”  35!  Ugh!

I hear a male’s voice near me saying,

“You’ve got 40 in you!’

A guy in front off me is giving me cues.  “Use your hips!”  “Look up!”

They were right,

I did 40 unbroken front squats!!!

Their encouragement pumped me to keep going.  I am amazed and happy as ish!  LOL!

34 front squats with 55 lbs.,  seemed impossible.  In actuality, the squats were more than possible.

We, including myself, have to stop setting ridiculous limitations for ourselves.

Decide to blow off that stupid little voice in your head that says, You can’t do that, and just go for it!

By the way, if you’re new to CrossFit and wonder where the names of the WODS come from, they are named after our United States Heroes, who died serving our country. Click here to learn about U.S. Army Sergeant Jeremiah Wittman.   That you Sergeant Wittman for your service!

Thanks for stopping by.  Make it a great day!


A Run Fixes Everything

For me, a tranquil long outdoor ten-mile run cures nearly anything that is broken on any given day.  But what if I can’t run?   What if time doesn’t permit?  What if the cold temperature at the jersey shore is at its worst and running outside is unhealthy?  What if my treadmill is broken?  What if running is not an option?  What if it has been a week since my last run?

My world shifts and, similar to sliding  on first base, I safely and recklessly slide into off kilter mode.  The slightest stupid comment, that I would normally ignore and laugh off, annoys the heck out of me.  I find myself on edge sitting in the front seat of a high-speed emotionally and terrifying roller coaster. I am the back-draft of a deadly fire.  Beware.  When I feel like this, I should wear a shirt with neon lights with the words “warning” flashing. Folks will know to steer clear and walk around and avoid me because I’m not feeling my normal cheerful self.

You probably won’t know that I am off kilter.  I still wear my predictable smile that I am known for; however, underneath the smile rest agitation at its best.  In this mode, I work hard to suppress my real feelings because I don’t want people to know how I’m really feeling.  If you ask me how I’m doing, I won’t tell you the ugly truth.   I’ll lie or exaggerate (depending on how you look at it) and say, “I’m okay.”  When the truth is I am miserable.

One morning at 7:15 a.m., I am off kilter, driving to work.  A sweet whisper in my ear tells me to turn the car around, go get my running sneaks but don’t bother changing my clothes.  Just RUN!  Don’t worry about sweating out my outfit of the day. Running in makeup for one day won’t kill me.  I might look ridiculous running in a skirt, but I’ll feel a heck of a lot better.  I will just make up some dumb excuse about why I am late for work or why I didn’t make it into work. For sure, the run would fix everything.  In my CD collection (Yes, I still use CD’s -LOL) and on the radio, I randomly and frantically search for the right song to sooth my crazy mindset.

I love music. I could sleep, eat, and work with music 24/7.    The right song can bring me to peaceful place, make me want to never quit running, or help me with deep cleaning around the house.  

On this particular day I arrive at work feeling twisted and knotted like a bunch of sheets just pulled from the washer.   However, as the school periods go by, several melancholy situations instantly diminish the negative thoughts and energy floating around in my head.  I remember that life is bigger than the spoiled runner who can’t get her run on today.   I move along in my day pushing my personal gobbledygook to the rear of my mind where it belongs.  “Life is bigger than you Chica! Get over it!”

With the help of my girl Oprah, a few days later, I suddenly grasp the fact that, while I’ve been loyal to my commitment to eat clean (avoid processed foods and eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables), lately I have neglected my mental and spiritual psyche.  My early morning and days end rituals of meditation, daily devotional reads, or stillness and quiet time has been invaded and assaulted by negative energy zapping substitutes.  The likes of reality TV shows like housewives, other pointless shows, and the negative side of social media has distracted me from handling my business of staying on course.  I don’t know how, it just happened… and without warning—I think. 

Although the incredible high from endorphins can temporarily infuse my spirit and make me feel happier and more balanced, the real fix isn’t just a run.  The real fix is restoring balance; the balance of physical and mental/spiritual fitness.

My focus this week is reconciliation.  Restore the balance that I am use to and avoid getting sucked into the negative energy again, even if I am unable to feed my addiction of running.

Enjoy your week!