Twenty-seven years ago, the statistics were stacked against our marital endeavors. In fact, according to a 1988 report, the year we married,
43% of marriages [will] end in divorce.
Well guess what baby? We. Are. Still. Married. Barring any dumb ass mid-life crises on either of our parts and God’s will and grace, we are on track to celebrate the BIG 30! I guess we blew the statisticians’ numbers out the window. :0) Heeeeey!
I feel like someone held down the fast forward button in our life as the years have passed seemingly quickly.
Although both of our parents had “successful” marriages that lived up to the vow of “..till death do us part; however, my parents’ marriage was far from what any marriage counselor would identify as functional. I have no doubts they loved each other dearly, but damn it, they had a funky way of showing it. Oh, the memories! Lol!
After five years of good friendship, we married. In total we’ve been buddies for 32 years and still do mostly everything together.
At 23 years old, I tenderly recited traditional wedding vows, excluding the “obey” part, but I had no idea of what it meant.
Tanya, will you have this man to be your lawful wedded husband, to live together after God s ordinance in the Holy Estate of Matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others keep you only unto him as long as you both shall live?
I Tanya take thee, James to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish forever, according to God s Holy Ordinance, and thereto I give thee my pledge.
Two kids later, the death of parents, several careers for me, selling and buying homes, few lows and many highs, I understand the full scope of our vows.
If you’re lucky, with age comes wisdom and I’ve learned many lessons. The last two anniversaries, I shared 25 & 26 lessons I learned from marriage. They’re well worth the read, check them out below:
Like any relationship, marriage has its ups and downs. Thank God we’ve shared more ups than downs.
Does he get on my damn nerves sometimes? Yup! Do I get oh his nerves sometimes? Heck yeah!
When you get down to the nitty-gritty, it is the basic principles that make a marriage work.
We fight (though rarely) clean… NEVER do we engage in name calling… always in private… never in front of anyone, including our children. Respect is at the top of the list… we give it so we can receive it.
Would I marry Big Daddy again? Absolutely!!! Lol! :0) Here are 27 reasons why I’d marry hubby again:
- He loves me for who I am
- He is kind
- He gets along well with my mom (better than me)
- He doesn’t anger easily
- His sense of humor
- He dances with me, even when he doesn’t feel like it :0)
- He dances with me but HATES dancing
- He smiles a lot (like me)
- He is a great father
- He spoils our kids
- He spoils me
- He LOVES his career
- Makes a good bed
- He cleans a house well
- He supported me through school
- He encourages me
- He respects me
- He respects women
- He is ALWAYS there for me
- I can ALWAYS count on him
- He is consistent
- He treated his mother VERY well
- He was a good son (to both parents)
- He provides WELL for his family
- He is selfless
- He embraced my crazy (handful) of friends
- He is forgiving
Happy 27th Anniversary Sweets!!